Quotes by Deborah Tannen

• We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups.
• We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has.
• The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship.
• Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women.
• For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.
• Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's.
• Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations.
• Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.